On Mother’s Day, I decided to take my mother out to lunch to celebrate how much I appreciate her as a mother. Before we went to lunch, we went to church dressed in our Sunday best. I decided to wear a very simple black sleeveless dress with ruffles lining the bust area and the upper back of the dress. I had on some very chic heels from Wet Seal that I call my Lady Gaga shoes. They have about a 4-inch heel and are ankle boots with stylish gaps all over the shoes.
My pastor has a lot to say, and after about an hour of standing in these shoes, I was beginning to regret my decision to wear these heels or at least the fact that I hadn’t brought a pair of flats or flip flops to wear when my feet started to hurt. As I was scolding myself for not bringing an extra pair of shoes, knowing I would be out all day, I was reminded of a topic I took my freshman year in my upper level philosophy class.
Although I don’t remember the name of the book, I remember that we talked about societal norms and how society has shaped the minds of young men and women and what is socially acceptable for them to wear. We talked about how women dress for other women, as well as dressing for themselves. Women tend to dress for other women when going out for a night on the town or to show off something that other women don’t have. Most of the time this is a man or money. Women who dress for themselves have no interest in what other women have to say or care about what they are wearing. They don’t need the approval of others to confirm that.
In this case, I dressed for myself. It was my mom’s day, and I had no need to impress anyone with how I looked. As I stated before, after an hour of being in church my feet were hurting. As I was dealing with my pain and reminded of this philosophy lesson, I asked myself, which do women prefer? Do women live by the phrase of ‘beauty is pain’ or do we dress with comfort in mind?
I must say that I try to dress for comfort, but I think for the most part, I dress with the mindset of pain is a consequence of beauty. In order for me to look truly spectacular, I have to suck it up…
What are your thoughts?